Being needed, wanted, and adored is the parenting trifecta that gets us through the sleepless nights, the relentless demands, and the bodily functions of early childhood. The helpless dependence, passionate attachment, and jubilant ardor offset the challenges associated with parenting youngsters. Moreover, we are in control. If our child isn’t complying, we usually can “make them.” This sense of control, coupled with those wonderful feelings, define what parenting is typically about before the tween and teen years.
Even though we all know adolescence is inevitable, we often remain under the delusion that somehow our wonderful parenting or our child’s easy-going disposition will prevent the door slamming, sullen silences, reckless button pushing, poor decision making, and disrespectful dialogue typical of the teenage years. We hope that through studied intervention we will remain in control throughout our child’s at-home years.